You Are Not Alone

We will be there long after the funeral to help you through the paperwork for Veterans, insurance, social security, etc.  We will help you as little or as much as you wish.

We feel that "after care" is a very important part of our obligation to you.  Our care library is available to you and your family with booklets that will help you cope with your loss.  We also offer the internet resources listed below.

Local Resources

Grief Share
A friendly, caring group of people who will walk alongside you through one of life’s most difficult experiences.

Provides links to local support groups

800-395-5755

VITAS Innovative Care
3520 Rt 130, Irwin
1-800-620-8482
Free work shops and support groups

The Western Pennsylvania Hospital
Forbes Regional Campus

Offers several support groups
To register call  412-325-7251

  • General Groups - All ages and types of loss

  • Young Widows and Widowers - Up to Age 50

  • Adult children who have lost parents

  • Middle aged - 50's and 60's

  • Parents who have lost children - Up to 21 yrs old

What is grief ?

 

Grief is a natural response to losing someone or something that’s important to you. You may feel a variety of emotions like sadness or loneliness. And you might experience it for a number of different reasons. Maybe a loved one died, a relationship ended, or you lost your job. Other life changes like chronic illness or a move to a new home can also lead to grief.

Everyone grieves differently. But if you understand your emotions, take care of yourself and seek support,

you can heal.

How to deal with the grieving process

While grieving a loss is an inevitable part of life there are ways to help cope with the pain, come to terms with your grief, and eventually find a way to pick up the pieces and move on with your life.

  1. Acknowledge your pain.

  2. Accept that grief can trigger many different and unexpected emotions.

  3. Understand that your grieving process will be unique to you.

  4. Seek out face-to-face support from people who care about you.

  5. Support yourself emotionally by taking care of yourself physically.

  6. Recognize the difference between grief and depression.

The grieving process

 

Your feelings may happen in phases as you come to terms with your loss. You can’t control the process but it’s helpful to know the reasons behind your feelings. Doctors have identified five common stages of grief:

  • Denial: When you first learn of a loss it’s normal to think, “This isn’t happening.” You may feel shocked or numb. This is a temporary way to deal with the rush of overwhelming emotion. It’s a defense mechanism.

  • Anger: As reality sets in, you’re faced with the pain of your loss. You may feel frustrated and helpless. These feelings later turn into anger. You might direct it toward other people, a higher power, or life in general. To be angry with a loved one who died and left you alone is natural, too.

  • Bargaining: During this stage you dwell on what you could’ve done to prevent the loss. Common thoughts are “If only…” and “What if…” You may also try to strike a deal with a higher power.

  • Depression: Sadness sets in as you begin to understand the loss and its effect on your life. Signs of depression include crying, sleep issues and a decreased appetite. You may feel overwhelmed, regretful and lonely.

  • Acceptance: In this final stage of grief you accept the reality of your loss. It can’t be changed. Although you still feel sad you’re able to start moving forward with your life.

Every person goes through these phases in his or her own way. You may go back and forth between them, or skip one or more stages altogether. Reminders of your loss, like the anniversary of a death or a familiar song, can trigger the return of grief.

Online Resources

Crisis, Grief & Healing
Grief discussion boards where men and women can discuss issues related to grief and healing.

Grief Loss Recovery
Poems, articles and personal stories.

Greiving.com
Support for grief and loss.

The Compassionate Friends
For parents who have lost children of all ages.

Better Help
Talk with a licensed professional therapist online, anytime, anywhere! Convenient affordable on-line counseling.

Ellie's Way
Comfort for the grieving.

Wise Old Sayings
An in-depth guide of grieving support resources.

Vaia Funeral Home

463 Athena Drive

Delmont, Pa  15626

Phone:  724-468-1177

Fax:  724-468-1179

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